Question: To follow my dreams, sometimes I need to break some rules. But I don't want to do it at the cost of bringing dishonor or disrespect to my parents or loved ones. I want to know how I can be an obedient daughter, but at the same time be an independent woman who lives her life according to her own rules?

Sadhguru: What you are saying is, I want to do something that I want to do, and I want to do it with everyone’s approval, and I don't want to pay any price for it. Life does not work like that. When we do something that we really want to do, there is a price attached to it. This is the nature of life. There is a price or a tax to pay for everything you do. How much or what level of tax depends on how revolutionary your idea is. 

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It is very unrealistic to think: “I want to do something but my father, my mother…” You must be glad they brought you into this world. Beyond that, do not complain. Your father and mother are doing what they know best. If you believe that you know something better than them, the first thing is to be able to convince them. 

If you want to do what you want but there should be no price attached to it, there is no such life anywhere – not here, not anywhere.

But suppose they are not able to grasp what you are talking about, they will not be convinced. Then it comes down to how badly you want to do whatever you want to do. Is it worth going beyond their lines? If you decide it is so – that you anyway want to do it, no matter what the price is – you do it, but there will be a price. If you want to do what you want but there should be no price attached to it, there is no such life anywhere – not here, not anywhere.

Editor’s Note: Read this article, where Sadhguru answers a question on dealing with family problems and conflict between parents, children and siblings, and looks at how the “battleground” could become a possibility for transformation.